In the book,
Dora's Fairy-Tale Adventure, the heroine is on a quest to wake her best friend Boots from the deep sleep the evil witch has caused to befall him. At the end of her journey, Dora has become a 'true princess,' which is required before she can wake (with a kiss on the cheek) her drowsy monkey friend.

Eliza, who added this book into her daily reading repertoire, soon adopted the title for herself; except, rather than announcing herself as being a true princess, she'll exclaim in a breathy voice,

"I'm a truth princess."
As Randy Jackson would say, "She made it her own. Dawg." And like so many other 'isms' our children create, I haven't felt a need to correct her because I get a kick out of hearing her say it her way. Now that I've documented that happy memory, I can try to tie in the fact that she is at that stage where she frequently asks,
"Why, Mom?"
Some topics I try to tie up quickly while others, I realize, deserve thoughtful explanations. For instance, the other day she walked in on a friend (a boy) who was using the bathroom. We totally respect and encourage the privacy of her playmates, but alas, the door had been left open. Soon after I closed the door, Eliza exclaims,
"I want to go potty standing up too!"
"Sorry, Eliza, you can't."
"Why, Mom?"
Parenthood.Is.Awesome. That particular subject has surfaced a lot lately. And depending on where we are and who we are with, I either offer a rain check on that conversation or
maturely provide a sufficient, yet simple, answer. When I hear the word, 'why' over and over; I try to tell myself that she's asking, "teach me" instead... because for whatever reason, it's less annoying.
When explaining the realities of what a stranger is or why we have smoke detectors (another hot topic), I feel concern that I may have caused unnecessary fear or worry. I do my best to say just enough to get the point across and then offer reassurances of love and safety. Like I said, some topics are easier than others. She's almost four and she is a sponge, so I'm trying to take her seriously.
So when she asks the difference between truth and lies, I take my time. When explaining or sharing examples of dishonesty, I fear that I may be feeding her a bad idea or that perhaps as a result of this conversation, I will have unintentionally inspired a future misdeed. Tricky stuff, right? Hopefully, the need to maintain her status of being a 'Truth Princess' will continue to hold some weight in her decision making process.
For the most part, Eliza has been forthright in acknowledging personal blame when it comes to making mistakes (both accidental and intentional in nature). After hiding a broken ornament, as I mentioned in a recent post, she bravely tattled on herself when I first noticed it had disappeared.
The other day, her bladder was given the green light to 'go' a moment before she was completely settled on the potty. A light urine splatter to the floor ensued.
"Mommy!" She hollered from the toilet. Making my way toward the bathroom I reply,
"Yes, Liza?"
"I did some pee pee on the floor." Patience, having been on my side that day, blessed her with a kind,
"That's okay, sweetheart." As I began the clean up process, she leaned down from the toilet where she was still perched and asked,
"Was that telling the truth, Mom?" I felt a mixture of surprise and pleasure. Another thirty second lesson (filled with a load of praise from me) about what it means to tell the truth followed. Eliza has wisely learned that her Mom's heart is quick to soften when she's the one to remind me that she's telling the truth. She's not always off the hook, depending on the offense, but the effect of her reminder has me stifling the urge to let out a sigh of deep frustration (among other weaknesses).
During an afternoon snack yesterday, she spilled the remaining juice from her cup of peaches.
"Uh-oh Mom! Look!"
"What is it?"
"I spilled my cup all over!" Sure enough, the peach juice had fallen onto the chair and was dripping its way onto the floor. It really wasn't a big deal. I mean, lets be honest, I spend most of the day wiping various surfaces: counters, bums, noses, etc. I wasn't seriously fretting as I came to investigate, but perhaps I did offer up a small frown. Cue Eliza,
"Mom?"
"Yes honey?"
"I just told you the truth, right?" Instantly, I'm smiling.
"Yes, Eliza"
Reinforce this positive behavior, I tell myself. Praise her for making a good choice. Before I can do this she says.
"Great.
Now clean it up!" And with that, she give her hair a slight toss and whisks herself out of the room; leaving me with my mouth ajar. Now that we're squared away on the importance of telling the truth, we'll soon be tackling the "everyone helps clean up" lesson.